6.  This process of being self-focused is healthy… and not to be dismissed as self-indulgent.

Although the process of working through this kind of wounding can bring up tremendous pain, commitment and perseverance in one’s relationship with a healer or therapist can produce great healing.

One can develop inner strength and realign and reinforce the foundation of Self. Going it alone is simply not enough to heal relational wounds.

One who has always been “other-focused” and self-sacrificing, may feel that taking this time and making this commitment to such a process is self-indulgent. However, the experience of being self-focused for a while can provide deep healing to the inner young child; within the context of the healing relationship, this child can now experience the reflection and containment which was enormously lacking at early stages of their life.

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